So many times women question if a man really desires to be with them or loves them. We accept crumbs instead of the whole cake, make excuses for them being unavailable or not attentive. Codependent behavior can feel comfortable with someone not being there for them if they grew up not experiencing proper attached relationship with parents. We dont realize that our needs and feelings are important. We also can remain loyal to our own detriment. Here are a few guidelines to know if a guy is really into you!
If a Man Wants You……
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. A man who desires and is pursuing you will put you above all else to catch you. (He’s Just Not That Into You is a great book on this)
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintaining boundaries is how you teach a guy how to treat you.
If something bothers you, speak up. Your needs and feelings are important too.
Never let a man know everything all at once or trust too soon. Keep that female mystique
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has
more education or in a better job.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less and you both are equals.
Never let a man define who you are. Don’t lose your identity in the relationship
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you. We teach them by what we allow
All men are not dogs. There are some great ones out there. We just have to believe we deserve one.
You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Think of it as interviewing
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you the things you are looking for in a relationship. Don’t fall in love with potential! Know what your deal breakers are.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies.
You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
Make a list of the man you desire the Universe to bring you. Your soul mate. Be very specific so the Universe knows exactly how to line that up for you. Then visualize it, feel it, believe he is on the way! Put the list under your mattress and sleep on it each night! You deserve and are worthy of the relationship you desire to have.
To Thine Own Self Be True,
Debbie Sherrick/Holistic Codependency Coach