As codependents, there can be many reasons of developing the habit of giving our energy away. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel and we were not taught how to process them. This was true for me. Or we may share too much with those who aren’t safe. We also give and do for others without having boundaries and can become drained and resentful.Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, our looking externally to feel good inside, our wanting to control others, is done to cope with this “out of body” experience we call codependency.
We obsess, we worry, we talk and babble about “our story”, we become anxious, and stress over the future. We try to control, caretake, and focus on others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.
Our energy is our energy. Our feelings, thoughts, issues, emotions, physical health, spirituality, creative energy is ours.
In becoming balanced and healthy, we can create healthy boundaries around ourselves and our energy. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and focus on our own issues.
If we are trying to escape our bodies, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can get quiet and honest and ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we may be avoiding that we need to face, what we need to deal with, remembering, that feelings buried alive never die.
This is why when dealing with our health and developing a wellness program, it is important to look at our emotions and how we are handling and dealing with them. Focusing on external people and things, blaming them for how we are feeling, and allowing them to upset us, can make us physically sick and drained with a lack of energy.
Practice keeping your energy inside your body. Stay within your personal boundaries. Realize that your health, physically, emotionally and spiritually is your responsibility. Ask God to help you let go of your need to escape yourself, to have the strength to face your own issues, so you can be comfortable living in your own body.
Healthy Blessings,
Debbie Sherrick
Wellness Coach
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Natural Healthcare Consultant
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