Just Let Things Happen!

Happy New Year! Since it is a new year, I’m assuming you are trying to implement some new behaviors and growth ideas for this year.I don’t really believe in New Year resolutions, but I do believe in setting  goals and writing them out. Then, I believe strongly in creating a action plan to reach those goals. One of my favorite things to do when working with codependency clients is creating what I call GAP with them. GAP stands for a Goal Action Plan. This plan includes goals for all areas of their life for a more balanced life of health and wellness physically, emotionally and spiritually. After we do that and create what the action plan will be, I then coach them through to meet those goals and create new belief systems about themselves. However, because those of us who are coming out of codependency behavior (notice I said coming out of), may have a tendency to want to control the outcome instead of letting things just happen. They may get into their super achiever, have to be perfect, controlling, obsessing, manipulating behavior to achieve these results. They may try to force and make things happen! After all, remember that trying to make things happen is controlling. We can do our part and take positive action, be consistent and give it our best. After that, we need to be detached from the outcome. We need to ask God to help us reach our goals and trust him to help us accomplish what we desire to do.  Controlling the outcome, whether it pertain to our own lives, or trying to control others, is self-defeating and draining. It doesn’t work. In fact, it can stop things from happening!

I remember a time in my life when I use to think God needed my help. I had so much fear of letting go and had such a warped sense of responsibility, that I felt like I was always needed to be in the drivers seat and I would put God in the back seat to have him help when I needed it! It was all fear based. “What if I didn’t help God out?” Things might fall apart! I was such a super responsible child growing up and was always waiting for the other shoe to drop in my family, that I learned to try to control things at a early age so  I could feel safe. Can you relate to that? Today, my life is much more peaceful as God has given me lots of experiences and circumstances to practice letting things just happen. Things in my life that I was not able to have any control over. That’s how we learn what we need to learn. The Universe knows this and will always give us practice until we get it.

Do your part to stay as relaxed and in peaceful harmony. Force yourself to let go if necessary. Act as if. Put as much energy into letting go as you have in trying to control outcomes. Make a decision to stop forcing things to happen. Let them happen naturally. Determine to experience “ease and flow” each day. You won’t believe the results you will get. Sometimes we take 10 steps forward, and some days it feels like we regress and take 5 steps back. It’s all ok. We are growing. As long as we are doing the best we can to reach our goals and using our tools for success in these areas, we will move forward on our journey when the timing is right. Take a deep breath and know we can trust God and his Universe to take care of us. We are safe.

Healthy Blessings,

Debbie Sherrick

Insideoutwellnesscoach.com