“There are things about ourselves that we need to get rid of: there are things we need to change. But at the same time, we do not to be too desperate, too ruthless, too combative. Along the way to usefulness and happiness, many of those things will change themselves, and the others can be worked on as we go along. The first thing we need to do is recognize and trust our own Higher Self, and not lose sight of that. For within the Ugly Duckling is a Swan, inside the Bouncy Tigger is the Rescuer who know the Way, and in each of us is something Special, and that we need to keep” ~The Tao of Pooh
When we get ready to take this step, God doesn’t just come down with a big vacum and suck out all that is inside of us. God doesn’t take our personality and remove “me”. God only takes those traits I asked him to help me with and give up to him. The ones that have gotten in my way and restricted me from being my true self. The ones that kept sabotaging me.
Fear was a big part of my codependency and life. It was the first emotion I remember growing up in my abusive alcoholic home. It was my friend and my enemy. I feared people, life, having fun, fear of my past, fear of being hurt and rejected, fear of God and fear of myself. Fear I have learned needs to go unless it is warning me not to walk in front of a truck!
Ive learned that letting go willingly of my character shadow side does not eliminate my personality. I have learned that where I am weak God is stronger. Letting go of these sabotaging behaviors has allowed me to be my true self and shine my light!
This step takes time and I feel happens over a period of years sometimes. It’s that we stay on this journey, not the pace that matters. It is not, I have learned, a instantaneous process. Over the years, we become changed. I did not have to change myself. I just had to continually surrender to God and ask for help. I asked him to help me do what I could not do for myself. And it has worked.
“To thine own self be true, for then you will be false to no man”
Let Your Light Shine,
Debbie Sherrick/Holistic Codependency Coach
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