Still Need Circumstances to Be Good To Feel Content On the Inside?
Oh yes, that ever looming familiar habit of needing things to be going smoothly to have peace and contentment. I know it all too well. Yesterday, as I was speaking and telling the story of my childhood and life and how “InsideOut Wellness” came to fruition, it reminded me again of how many years I…
Do You Constantly Say “Im Sorry” ?
Has it ever been brought to your attention how many times a day you say the words ‘I’m sorry’? And did you know that saying these words repeatedly can actually have a negative impact on you? I’m not talking about when we say I’m sorry for something you have done that you need to make…
Loving an Addict on Thanksgiving: A Different Kind of Stuffing
Im sharing a blog this morning from someone who knows the pain of being an addicts Mom. Sandy Swenson is a voice for those who suffer the pain of loved ones being addicted. Please visit her website at sandyswenson.com for more inspirational blogs. I will also be showcasing Sandy and her story on my next…
Why Is It Necessary to Love Yourself First For A Healthy Relationship?
I would have to say that this is probably the number one primary thing I teach clients how to do. To change your belief system of “not good enough” to learning to love themselves in a genuine, heartfelt way so that it becomes part of their belief system. I AM LOVE. Can you mess up…
InsideOut Coda Corner: Protecting Our Energy
As codependents, there can be many reasons of developing the habit of giving our energy away. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel and we were not taught how to process them. This was true for me. Or we may share too much…
Do You Suffer Emotional and Verbal Abuse From An Addict?
Sad to say, but abuse is pretty common in relationships that include an addict. It can be because of their guilt and shame, unresolved childhood and family of origin issues, the effects of drugs and alcohol and many other factors, those who suffer from the verbal and emotional abuse of an addict can suffer greatly…
Does It Always Seem Your Defending Yourself?
Are You Always on The Defense Defending Yourself? I love this description about defense and always debating by Byron Katie. One thing for sure that most codependents do is to defend and debate about things because of their lack of confidence in their decisions and being able to validate themselves. A familiar habit also is…
The Suffering of Children and Domestic Violence
As a codependency coach and survivor of domestic violence, I have committed to #breakthesilence during #DomesticViolence month. One thing that I know gets overlooked, is the damage it does to the children who are victims of domestic violence. One of my urgent passions is to educate the parents of what this is doing to their…
Domestic Violence in Relationships
We are approaching Domestic Violence month in October. I will blogging and doing my Empower Hour Show on Google+ on Domestic Violence next month. Every 9 seconds, a woman is abused in our country. Unacceptable . Please use the hashtags on Twitter #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft and follow the thread. You may follow me @insideoutwell also.…
Give It Up and Move On!
10 Things to Give UP to move forward! GIVE UP: 1. Opinions of others 2. The shame of past failures 3.Being indecisive about what you want 4. Procrastinating on goals I want 5. Choosing to do nothing (a confused mind does nothing) 6. Your need to be right. Better to be happy! 7. Running from…